Root Cause of Divorce
After my wife’s second affair (that I know of), I knew divorce was inevitable. I also knew from past experience how ugly (and expensive) divorce can be. I really didn’t want to go through that nightmare again. So I looked for ways to file for divorce online just to get it over with as quickly as possible – without making the attorneys rich.
I mean, who wants to live one more day married to an unrepentant cheater? Not me.
Like a lot of people, I mistakenly believed that my wife’s infidelity was the root cause of our impending divorce.
Just in case it’s not obvious, I don’t believe that anymore.
In fact, as far as I can tell, affairs rarely lead to broken marriages, but broken marriages quite often lead to affairs. Which means that our broken marriage was the cause of our divorce – not her affairs.
Affairs rarely lead to broken marriages, but broken marriages quite often lead to affairs.
Do Cheaters Have Reasons or Just Excuses?
Of course, I feel bad for anyone who feels pain, loneliness or frustration in their broken marriage. But regardless of what’s happening in the relationship, the cheater made a conscious decision to cheat. They can always choose not to cheat…right up until the very minute they do it.
But they decide to cheat knowing that they should have tried to resolve the issues in your marriage BEFORE cheating.
But they didn’t.
They can’t unring the bell, so they’ll say and do anything to justify their actions and to shift blame to you. So while they may share a laundry list of very traumatic reasons they tell their therapist – that might be valid for their future growth – none of them are valid excuses for infidelity.
Ultimately, my quest to get my Utah divorce papers online was unsuccessful. So I launched OurDivorce.com to help others get their divorce papers online.